Online ta'aruf platformMindful ta'aruf,
blessed marriage.
Get to know each other the right way: the wali is involved, photos stay blurred, and every stage has clear limits.
No ads. Your data is never sold.
And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, so that you may find tranquility in them.
A ta'aruf room with boundaries, not an endless chat.
Once a request is accepted, you both get a room for 30 days with 20 messages. Enough to understand each other's vision and character before continuing with the wali.
- AkhwatHow close are you with your extended family?
- IkhwanAlhamdulillah, very close. We get together every week.
- AkhwatWhat are you hoping for from this process?
- IkhwanClarity, and the wali involved from the start.
Phone numbers, emails and social media handles are blocked automatically.
How it works
Five steps, one intention.
Module 2 of 3 · Adab
Why is the wali involved from the start?
- AJust a formality
- A marriage without a wali isn't valid, and the wali protects your honour
- CTo make the process harder
Module 2 of 3 · Adab
Why is the wali involved from the start?
- AJust a formality
- A marriage without a wali isn't valid, and the wali protects your honour
- CTo make the process harder
1/5 · Education
Learn the adab first.
Three short modules on the meaning of ta'aruf, respectful communication and the role of the wali, followed by a short quiz. Everyone starts from the same understanding.
Fulanah
26 years · Bandung · Bachelor's
Profile completion82%Memorised 1–5 juzAiming for 6–12 monthsNon-smokerReal name, phone number and date of birth are never shown.
2/5 · Profile
An honest profile, reviewed by our team.
Fill it in step by step with guidance. Your profile only appears after a review, and anything that could identify you is never shown.
Ta'aruf request
“Assalamu'alaikum. I've read your profile and feel our visions are aligned. I'd like to get to know you better, with the intention of marriage.”
Decline kindlyAcceptUp to 3 pending requests · 30-day pause if declined
3/5 · Request
Reach out respectfully.
Write an introduction that shows you've read their profile. They can accept, or decline with a kind, ready-made reply.
- Ta'aruf room · moderated 13/20
Which daily worship do you keep consistently?
Reciting Qur'an after Fajr, in sha Allah. And you?
A weekly study circle with my family.
Phone numbers are blocked automatically before nadzor.
4/5 · Ta'aruf room
Just enough to get to know each other.
20 messages over 30 days, with suggested questions. Enough to understand each other's vision without dragging things out.
Nadzor stage
The akhwat's wali
- Wali
- Father
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Shared only after the akhwat agrees, and her consent is recorded.
Continue to khitbahEnd kindly5/5 · Nadzor
With the wali, toward khitbah.
The akhwat agrees to share her wali's contact, and the ikhwan reaches out to him. After the nadzor, both decide: continue to khitbah (the proposal), or part ways kindly.
Three things we hold to.
The wali is involved
Wali details are required from the start and become the main channel at the nadzor stage.
Learn before you begin
Everyone completes the ta'aruf adab modules before writing a profile.
Moderated by our team
Profiles are reviewed before they appear, and ta'aruf rooms are moderated so adab is kept.
Not a dating app.
- Swiping and open photosBlurred photos, reviewed profiles
- Endless chatting20 messages, moderated
- Family finds out laterThe wali joins at the nadzor stage
Privacy
Your data stays yours.
Access rules are enforced in the database itself, not just in the interface. We don't sell data and we don't run ads.
Read the privacy policy (Indonesian)Blurred photos
Photos are only shown clearly at the nadzor stage.
Identity protected
Your real name, phone number and date of birth are never shown.
Contacts blocked
Messages containing phone numbers, emails or social handles won't be sent.
Your data, your call
Download or delete all your data at any time from Settings.
Our references
Rooted in guidance.
FAQ
Questions you might have.
How is ta'aruf different from dating?
Ta'aruf is getting to know someone with the intention of marriage: the wali is involved, communication stays respectful, and there is a clear time limit. On Sakeenah, ta'aruf rooms are moderated and the wali joins at the nadzor stage.
Who can see my profile?
Only members of the opposite gender whose profiles are also verified. Your real name, phone number, date of birth, workplace and parents' names are never shown, and photos stay blurred until the nadzor stage.
Does my wali need to sign up?
No. You only add your wali's name and WhatsApp number when you sign up. The akhwat's wali contact is shared with the ikhwan only at the nadzor stage, and only after she agrees.
How long does it take?
A ta'aruf room lasts 30 days with up to 20 messages. After that, you either continue to nadzor with the wali or close the process kindly.
Does it cost anything?
Signing up and going through every stage of ta'aruf, from profile to nadzor, costs nothing. If you want, Sakeenah Plus is an optional package for identity verification, advanced filters, profile insights, priority review and mentoring. The adab and limits of the process stay the same for every member.
Can I delete my account?
Yes, at any time from Settings. All your data, including photos, wali details, requests and messages, is permanently deleted. You can download a copy first.
Set your intention,
then do your part.
Sign up, learn the adab, then build your profile with guidance. The outcome we leave to Allah.
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